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FEMALE STRAP ONS
Strap ons. Hmm interesting subject, but you are here because you want to know about them, right?
Strap ons are essentially a replacement penis, that's “strapped on” to a person, mostly by using a harness with a dong or dildo shaped like a penis, attached for the purpose of using it for penetration.
A strap-on sex toy can be used to penetrate a partner of any gender. When a female penetrates a male with a strap on in a role reversal situation, this is called "pegging" and its purpose is to stimulate the prostate via anal play. When used by lesbian couples, the strap-on dildo can be used for vaginal penetration or used for anal sex. You could also include butt plugs to give the sensation of double penetration. Essentially, there are a variety of reasons and situations where strap ons may be able to provide extra stimulation, and there is no reason not to consider them as an effective toy for foreplay or the main event.
FEMALE STRAP ONS VERSUS MALE STRAP ON (WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE?)
The quick answer is, not much. Essentially the only real difference is that a male strap on will typically be hollow, so the penis can be inserted inside to improve comfort for the wearer. Male strap ons are more common when the male suffers from erectile dysfunction and still wishes to pleasure their partner with an erect cock.
A female strapon will not have a provision for a penis, however a female can wear male strap ons, as there is nothing to squash when placed in the pelvic area.
WHAT MAKES UP A FEMALE STRAP ON?
The basic strap ons comprise a strap-on harness and a dong or dildo. The harness is designed to sit in the groin or pelvic area, with straps that wrap around the waist, and around the top of the leg and/or bum to hold it in place. It typically has an O-ring in the center, to provide a mounting point for the dildo. The dildo has a flared base, so once inserted into the O ring, the O ring keeps it in place.
STRAPLESS STRAP ONS?
Well yes, these are a thing. Strapless strap ons generally require insertion of part of the strap on to hold it in place, so effectively no harness to position or attach the strap ons to. Quick and easy to apply, the strapless strap ons are a great alternative to the bulk of the harness, however the harness does provide more stability with its positioning. The item below is one example of Bed Buddies range of strapless strap ons.
WHAT TO LOOK FOR IN A FEMALE STRAP ON
An adjustable harness is really important. As is the material its made from. Wearing a female strap on needs to be a comfortable experience, or the experience will not be worth the investment. A harness that has some padding, or made from softer materials are good options.
Other things to consider will depend on what’s important to you.
Some harnesses are able to be used with a variety of strap on dildos, while others are limited to the one style, size or brand. If choice and variety is important, then you need to consider this.
Another option for harnesses is a provision for a bullet vibrator, to increase the stimulation for the wearer, who wont be getting any direct stimulation from wearing the strap on.
Make sure your dildo is made from safe materials, typically phthalate free.
INTRODUCING STRAP ONS TO YOUR SEX LIFE
The first inclination is to literally strap it on and take it for a ride. But wait, maybe you should spend a little bit of time first, adjusting the straps, figuring out how the dildo sits in the harness, how you are going to care for and clean the dildo, and even cleaning and maintaining the harness. Being able to get in and out of the strap on quickly and easily whilst involved in sexual activities, making sure it fits correctly for comfort, and being able to fix any problems such as the dildo separating from the harness are all important things to know. Getting these things right before you dip your D in any pond is worth the time.
PLAYTIME
As a woman, thrusting into another person isn’t necessarily something that will come naturally. The first inclination is to bang away like you’re about to put your hip out, however smaller more subtle movements are better to begin with. Once you have the hang of it, bang away baby.
Its important that you use plenty of lube, both at the start, and throughout the use of the strap on. We recommend water based lubricant be used with any toys, as sex toys can be sensitive to the chemicals in silicone based lubricants. As the dildo is not physically part of you, you cant feel what’s going on.
Whatever the situation, communication with your partner is key to the success of using a female strap on. Talk to each other about what’s working and what’s not. The first few times you use the strap on may feel awkward for one of both of you, so talking about the feelings, sensations and emotions involved will lead to a much more fulfilling experience as you become used to it as part of your sex life.
After any use, as with any sex toy, make sure the strap on is thoroughly cleaned with an appropriate toy cleaner, or at least with warm soapy water. Ensure the entire strap on, including the straps, is dry before storing it away.